When I said “I do, I meant that I will….”
This was our wedding song 9 years ago on May 11, 2002. I was 22 years old, a recent college graduate, I had a new job, I wasn’t sure I would be able to bear children, we lived in an apartment, I “liked” Jesus but wasn’t anywhere close to where I am today in my relationship with Him. Geoff was 23 years old, also a recent college graduate, was starting a new job, was hopeful to have a family and didn’t know Jesus much. When I look back on our wedding day I want to change the words to “our song” to “When I said I do, I meant that I have no idea”.
If I would have known then what I know now I would- without any doubt- marry the same man. I just love him, cater to him, and would do anything for him. He’s my best friend. We are so different from one another, but he makes me laugh. I may not “get him” all the time, but he’s a loving husband, is so supportive of my ministry, an amazing dad, a sweet little league baseball coach, a hard worker, intelligent, putty in our little girls hands, devoted, and sincere man. I am BLESSED.
If someone were to tell me on my wedding day that I would have 3 beautiful children, a beautiful home, our own successful business, a ministry, an amazing church, wonderful friends, and a very loving relationship with God…I would have jumped for joy!!! YES!!! Sign me up for THAT! Wohoo!
But, if I were to sign on the dotted line under the long list of things Geoff and I would have to go through to get to this point, I would have been less excited and more fearful on my wedding day.
3 jobs losses…preterm labor…bed rest…post-partum depression…deaths…suicide in the family…illnesses…young baby needing surgery…no money…electricity turned off..starting a business…Geoff and malignant melanoma…my mother-in-law fighting cancer…worry…what if’s…the list goes on…ugh.
The thing is, when we got married…we really didn’t know what we are saying when we said “I do”. We didn’t know what the Lord would put in our path. But, what I believe by faith is the Lord did whatever it took to grasp ahold of our marriage…my husband…and me. Our marriage is better today than it was on that first day because we invited God into it. It wasn’t the happy moments that “got us” either…it was the storms that brought us to our knees.
“Because the LORD disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as His son”-Hebrews 12:6
The diagram below is the best mental image I have of a successful marriage. The closer two people get to God at the top of the diagram the closer they get to one another. This is true in our marriage today. I have to admit that it wasn’t always that way. We have had “success”, “reputation”, and “money” at the top of our pyramid before and it didn’t bring us happiness. It isn’t always easy…we fail all the time…but the holy spirit convicts us and keeps leading us back. What a blessing it is to have a Christian marriage. I am already praying this on our children.
When you said “I do” what were you signing up for? Is God at the top of your pyramid today? If not, what is?