I’ve noticed that unmarried folks talk more about sex than those of us who are married…then, when couples decide to marry-sex falls off the “to do list”. This shouldn’t be. We have it all wrong.
{As I write this, my husband-grinning ear to ear, has his head on my shoulder- he’s never shown this much interest in what I’ve written!!! The quickest way to a hubby’s heart is through his stomach-Ummm…not so much. Sheila wins, Bahaaa!!!!}
Ladies, I have some exciting news! Sheila Wray Gregoire is giving away 2 FREE copies of her new E-book “31 Days to Great Sex” to Comfy in the Kitchen readers!
Sheila writes:
God created sex to unite us on three levels–physical, spiritual, and emotional. When we feel truly intimate on those three levels, our marriages soar. And that’s when we’re able to impact our churches and communities for Him.
But if we’re not connecting in our marriages, we lose out on a great strength that God gave us in this life. And we threaten our families and our children’s future.
The church doesn’t like to talk about sex, and so we leave it to our culture. And our culture has turned it into something perverse and disgusting.
I’m not willing to stand for that anymore. I think the church needs to step up and fight back and start redeeming sex.
And that’s what this ebook does. It takes couples through exercises about improving their communication, their friendship, their outlook on sex, and yes, even the mechanics of sex, so that their marriage can rock!
I’m really proud of this book, and I’m excited to see how God is going to use it.
Sheila, thank you for taking a stand on a topic that so many married couples shy away from…Sex is a good thing when it’s used for it’s purpose-to enhance the loving and sacred bond between a husband and wife.
***HOW to win YOUR FREE COPY! Please leave an encouraging comment about sex, your husband or marriage below-remember, my readers DO read one another’s comments. Let’s use this time and space to help one another and perhaps even share in testimony! *****
Sheila Wray Gregoire is a national speaker, parenting columnist, and the author of seven books, including The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex. You can find Sheila, and her new e-book The 31 Days to Great Sex, at her To Love, Honor and Vacuum blog.
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As I am getting married in FIVE days, I think this book would make a fabulous tool to start our marriage off right and hopefully prevent us from from falling off the wagon once the newness begins to fade.
as a momma to a newborn and toddler..wow! this book looks like a Christmas present for me(or should I say my husband?). This season of my life has been challenging in this area throughout the preg. and recovery…..my husband has been very understanding through it all..I am ready to make it up to him !!!
My husband and I have been marriage for 7 years but thus last year has been extremely difficult. Nor thing I have learned is communication and forgiveness are very important. We still have a long way to go hut to God be the glory that we are still together to work on our marriage and make it better than before!!!
Today my husband and I are celebrating 22yrs of wedded bliss! I have to say our love life is off the charts so we will be the first to admit that sex is a good thing, a very good thing! Sex gets a bad wrap for men, like its all about them. Ladies we need that connection just as much! (Even more if we are willing to admit it)! I have been known to brag to my girlfriends about our great sex life! (this is when their eyes roll) But I am madly inlove with my husband of 22 years and as good as sex is now….we only see it getting better with each year!
I am 53 yrs old and married for the 2nd time in my life. This is a Christian marriage which I never had before. It has made sex for us so emotional and connection to God that it is so intense. I have never after 22 yrs of marriage before had this with a marriage. I read everything spiritual I can get my hands on and just Praise God that I am not where I was, but I am not where we want to be quite yet. We are young Christians wanting to have it all through God. I want to be a good wife and sexual partner, and I know this would help me!! Please pick me!! Thank you so much for your messages that keep me inspired each day, Lisa Gresham
It’s hard to find time together between an 8 yr old and a 2 yr old that doesn’t want to sleep.
As parents of a nine month old who will only sleep right between us, sex and intimacy in general has taken a back seat in our marriage. I know that one day our bed will be ‘ours’ again… Just trying to stay connected as best as we can in the meantime!
I am blessed to be married to a wonderful Christian man of integrity. So thankful for him and our 15 years that we have been married! This book could make our marriage more exciting! Can’t wait to read it!
We are married 27 years next month! My husband is still the only man I want. Would love to get some more inspiration in the area of intimacy. Thanks, Janelle!
I’ve been married for going on 28 years to a wonderful, patient man. Things haven’t always been as they should be according to God’s design for marriage, but we’re getting better all the time, through His grace. This book would be a welcome addition!
I read through Sheila’s blog posts when she did the original series and it was great! My husband and I have been married for 18 years and I love him more now than I did when we got married!
Thanks for the chance to win!
We’ve been married for 9 1/2 years, and I can say that it does get better. For me to understand that sex is how my husband feels close to me, has been a huge thing for me. I’m definitely not perfect at it, but I am trying to improve my attitude toward sex.
We have been married for 13 years and our love life is better than ever. It has been a huge blessing this year to have an hour alone at home before our kids get home from school. I am all for afternoon delights!
I have been married for 6 years and our marriage is wonderful but I have a hard time seeing how God can be involved in our sex life so I think this book would be great!
Thank you!
“The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex” helped me to have a better perspective on our sex life, one of my favorite parts was the topless t.v. time!
My husband and I have been married 27.5 years and have 4 children. Things were very crazy with little ones in the home and our intimate relationship could easily have taken a hit. But we determined that we would not let our kids take priority over us as a couple. So, we made sure we had a date night at least once a month and every other year we have taken a vacation sans kids. I can honestly say that we are closer now than we were when we were in our first year of marriage and I think our sex life is better too, because we are so connected as a couple. I love my husband with my whole heart and our time alone is so precious to me.
Wow, this would be a great book for my husband and myself. We have three girls (6, 3, & 15 mos) and an ornery puppy. Needless to say sleep is pretty much on my mind by the time bed time rolls around. That’s no excuse so I’d love some insight on how to bring that passion back.
I have been married for 4 1/2 years and am pregnant with baby #4! I could really use this book to help me be more intimate(obviously, I have managed to a few times at least) with my husband! After being pregnant most of our marriage, I do not feel sexy or often feel like having sex. But I absolutely adore my husband and want him to feel how much I love him! I know it is the way to a man’s heart. But I need encouragement. Thanks!
My husband and I have been married for 6 yrs, but our sex life has never been great. He has struggled a great deal with sexual sin and is currently in biblical counseling. This book would be great for me to know more about how to view sex and please my husband.
I’ll be married 5 years in the spring. I have a faithful, patient husband who loves me and our daughter. I am so blessed by him! I want to honor him more through physical intimacy.
I have found that for me sex becomes a chore when I allow the day to drag me down. Many times my husband tries to encourage me or share my load but I feel I shouldn’t burden him. When I share my day, then I have a better attitude and more energy for sex later! Also, sometimes it is just important to spice things up a bit! You would be amazed at how much fun it can be to simply set a timer and limit yourself to not touching certain areas, not taking off certain clothing, etc. until that timer goes off.
I love sheilas blog she is truly a woman of God helping many marriages I belive that sex does matter a great deal and have proven this in my own life with my husband. I thank God for the women of God that he has placed in blog world for people like me Thanks so much to sheila and to Janelle for all you do in Jesus name.
The best advice I have ever heard from an older and wiser woman is, “Always make sure you are your husband’s girlfriend.”
Sex is not bad, it is made to be enjoyed under the protection of marraige. Hopefully this will help so many who may need it.
after 42 years of marriage and many trials we still love each other very much but who couldn’t use a few ideas to spark things up
This book is so needed. As a woman, I know that I could use some of the advice. But, sometimes a marriage is torn by a husband’s sexual struggles, which have nothing to do with his wife. It can be a painful reality to live year after year. Anything that works toward sexual healing in a marriage sounds good to me!
My husband and I make sure to schedule (yes schedule) sex at least 3 times a week, but we always aim for more. It’s a win win for both of us for more reasons than having sex.
A time to feel needed and wanted, loved and admired. Being married for 15 years and having teens, we decided to take on 3 foster kids under the age of 5. We need to make time for each other and let each other know we can still light a fire:)
Could use some help in this department! My husband and I are so tired out from twins, his military career, and just life in general so we don’t make this a priority in our marriage. Thanks for the chance to win the book!
Could really use some help in this department. Thanks for the chance to win.
We will be married nine years this month. I cherish still the time I get to spend with my husband and how hard he works for me and our 2 little girls. I appreciate his continued growth in becoming a Godly man and leading our family.
I have heard great things about this book and would love to read it! My hubby and I have been married for 2.5 years. I love making love to my husband…I just wish we could do it more often and be more comfortable talking about it. It is getting better and easier…and frankly, more fun!…but I know that we need some guidance how to get make it even BETTER! Enter me in the drawing!
After 13 years and 3 great children later i’ve found that this is something that is just as important as date nights and im trying to change my outlook on sex to make our marriage even better. Ben a long hard year but its defiantly worth the extra effort to keep our marriage strong and healthy.
The comment that started this blog post really hit a nail on the head for me. I would like to work on this area in my life.
Life seems so busy that this an easy area of neglect. I am trying to find that right balance.
it is so true that we need to make time for sex in our marriages but unfortunateley everyday life does seem to get in the way
After 31 years of marriage and an accident that left me permanently disable, my sweet husband takes care of most of the house chores. I would love to spice up his life a little in return,
My husband and I celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary this year and up until maybe the last 2 years I had always commented that “we were still on our honeymoon”. However, it seems we both stay worn out and getting in the mood is a major chore. He is a wonderful Christian husband who wants to please me in every way – not just in the bedroom. This book sounds like a good read to help us get “back on that honeymoon”!
My husband and I have been married for 24 years. We have three grown children and one grand baby.
I would love to read this book…. Even after 24 years, I am always wanting to approve our relationship. To be a better Godly wife.
We have had many struggles in our marriage and finally got counseling. Our counselor suggested we pray together before sex for God to “bless our union”. We never skip praying now, it DOES make a difference!
We’ve been married 13 years, and I know that having sex more often brings only positive results: we feel closer to each other, my husband is less stressed and just generally more happy, romantic, and eager to help around the house.
I just need help wanting to. I think I could go months and never have the desire. Getting started often feels like a chore, even though I do end up enjoying it. I don’t want it to feel like a chore. I want to desire sex with my husband as much as he desires me!
(Not sure if you’re still doing the giveaway) My husband and I just celebrated our 4 year anniversary. Not a long time, but a huge deal for us! We didn’t think we’d make it to a year and now we are two completely different people thanks to God changing us both!! We have a three year old and two month old. Sec is something I’m a little confused about and having a hard time with, and honestly it’s hurting my husband that I don’t desire it. I want it to be more then a get it over with thing. I could GREATLY use this book!
Oh, this would be great! I blush so badly buying sexbooks at our Christian book store.
We have a great marrige but I know I could be more willing at times. When my head hits the pillow..well, it takes a while to get excited! 
As a wife of nearly 29 years, we have had a rough 12 months. Having a 24 year old son with Cerebral Palsy that required us to be separated due to extended hospital stays in another city away from home, took its toll on our marriage early on. We worked very hard at helping each other and being there when possible to give the other one a break from the 24 hour a day care!
I have great comfort in reading Sheila’s other books and her blog daily! She is a tell it like it should be author and I recommend her to any wife or soon to be wife. You will be so glad you did! Blessings to all!
The best advice I have received about sex is that wives can (and should) give the gift of themselves to their husbands even when they aren’t in the mood or when they have their grocery list on their minds, do it for him. My husband is lucky that I like to give gifts as often as I do!
My hubby and I have been married almost 20 years and have 3 years. I learned long ago that the happier I try to keep my hubby then the happier he tries to keep me. Some days that means chicken pot pie or chicken and dumplings. Some days that means picking up his dry cleaning or running his car in to get the oil changed. Some days (well, most days) that means showing him physical affection which most times leads to sex. I feel very blessed to know that my hubby still finds me attractive and still wants me in that way. Do I always “feel” like it? Nope. I’m tired at the end of a long day too. But I do. He doesn’t always “feel” like going to work every day, but he does. He takes care of me, so I try to take care of him!
Wow I’m so encouraged by all the women who have been married for so long, congratulations ladies! My husband and I have been married for a little over 2 years and have recently moved to Hawaii for him to teach scuba diving
you would think I would be more motivated for sec but sometimes I would just rather fix him a quesadilla… I need to get excited for life and I think this book would be a great encouragement for me and my husband and the rest of this crazy journey called life!!
I have been married for 25 years to my dear husband. I have homeschooled our 3 children (graduated 2 and still homeschooling the last who is now 15yo). One HUGE mistake I made was getting too tired for sex. What I should have done was put the kids to bed earlier or taken a nap or ANYTHING that would have allowed me to NEVER be too tired to have sex with my sweetheart. He was always understanding but in the last year or so I have learned that it made him feel that I put the children (and basically everything) before him, which was NEVER my intention. Since learning this vital piece of information, I have found that no matter how tired I am, I don’t let him know it and I enjoy our time together just as much as if I weren’t tired.
i would love to win this book. having a 10 mo old daughter who will only sleep in mommys arms makes great sex hard to come by, esp w/ a broken leg right now!! i think this could def help us a lot!
to me the best part of sex is the after part of sex. the holding each other close, the tender kisses, the small quiet voice, falling asleep in each others arms, kissing each other slowly and falling asleep with lips on lips…that to me makes the total experience complete and whole and makes me feel fully content!!
We’re adjusting to a newness in our relationship now that we have a little one. But to us it’s just another season in our lives. We had many years to spend together as just the two of us.
I’m always behind in reading the blogs I love to follow, so I’m late to the party. I think this book would be a fantastic giveaway!!! I met my husband later in life and I had a 15 year old son at the time. We both felt and said that God gave us to each other when He knew we needed each other the most. We felt then and still do feel very connected spiritually, physically and emotionally, and we’ve told our friends this for years. Some look at us funny, others get it. I just turned 50, we’ve been together 13 years and married for 10 years. Our sex life is just as active as it was when we first got together. My husband still calls me for a date every week and I mentioned this on another blog but I’ve never told him “No” — I enjoy sex with my husband a great deal. I think he is smart enough to know how tired I am and those days, I get the back rub or he combs and braids my hair for me and sometimes he even polishes my nails for me. I am truly blessed!!