While I was having my “quiet time” the other day, I read something that stood out to me… Something that I thought would really resonate with anyone reading right now. It was about what to do when we have a friend in need.
I’ve been a friend to those in need. I’ve also been a friend in need.
The thing is, sometimes friends really don’t know what to do or what say when their friend is hurting…even if they are close. Perhaps they want to do something, they just don’t know what. Often times, they ignore the situation because they don’t want their friend to feel ashamed. That awkwardness (and sometimes even the solitude) becomes an additional layer anguish in a hurting person’s life. Not only is the trial hard- the ripple effect can be even harder on the one who is suffering.
Have you been there?
Maybe you’ve gone through a divorce, suffered a death, battled a serious illness, lost a job, or are coping with depression.
And if you have been there, you know what I’m talking about.
You may be on the opposite side- you are a friend of someone who is suffering and are overwhelmed with empathy for that person. But again….you don’t want to overstep your boundaries. Well….this is just the thing for you to read.
Here we go…
A Friend in Need
Friendship gives license to show up at the door of need without asking, “When would you like me to come? ” or “What would you like me to do?” Nor does friendship call out, “Just let me know if you need anything.”
Practiced friendship whispers, “I’ll be there” and promptly steps through the door with sensitivity, respect and understanding.
But what about honoring the right to invite? Those who wait for parchment invitations wait long, for need rarely throws a party-rarely even has a voice.
Yet need has its own needs. It needs protection from strangers tromping in with work boots and good intentions. And it needs relief from acquaintences wearing spiked heels of advice and pat answers.
Need waits with longing for the familiar entrance of dear ones who pad barefoot through the soul on ordinary days. “
~ Susan L Lenzkes
So there you have it, Girls….friendship isn’t polite, it’s real.
There is a huge need out there for friends….I’m talkin, friends. Go be one!
Dedicated to my husband Geoff Nehrenz